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As I was looking though my cousin's photographer's blog to look at a sneak peek of wedding photos, I was reminded of an ever growing trend of pre and post wedding photos: boudoir shots. These are pictures taken of a woman in her undies, sometimes less, normally at a hotel room or her home, then put into an album and given to her husband.

So far I can't find one good thing about these photos. The most common defense I've heard is "but only my husband will see them." Not so much. First of all, your photographer will and possibly any assistants he/she has. The files will be on their computer for who knows how long, and if they have full rights to the photo they CAN use them for marketing purposes (websites, brochures, sample albums) without telling you. Second of all, everyone at the album making company from the person who receives the submission to the person double checking the order will see this. And if they are guys, the images WILL catch their eyes and stick in their minds. Men are very visual creatures!!!

Another thought I've had is what is a guy to do with this album???? Having it around is likely to cause more temptation to lust. It's our job to lead our husbands to heaven - presenting them with an opportunity to fall into sin is quite the opposite.

The other most common argument I've heard is "at least he's looking at photos of me and not random women." It's so sad to see how widespread and almost commonplace pornography has become. Women are willing to tolerate it and to some extent promote it. Lust is lust is lust no matter who you are lusting after. It's our job to speak up and protect the guys we know and love (and even the ones we don't know yet).

So yeah, in the words of my husband "boudior shots suck."